Change is always present. Everywhere in the world things are constantly changing, they’re changing in nature, in our bodies, and even all the way to space. The whole of the universe is constantly expanding and changing.
We should already be used to change happening in our lives, but sometimes it can be so dreadful that we become resistant to the experience that’s making things different.
Why do we resist change?
The loss of important aspects of our lives such as jobs, relationships, and loved ones, turn our worlds upside down and change becomes unbearable because of fear of not knowing what to do or what’ll happen next.
Most of the time change is simpler. But we resist it only because we’ve settled in a specific set of ideas, habits and ways of living that will be put in danger if we were to pursue anything else.
Whether it happens suddenly from an event or whether we need to make it happen by modifying aspects of our lives or pursuing what we desire, we have a hard time accepting or initiating it.
Change is necessary to continue our growth as human beings.
Let’s take a look at ways that can help us welcome change and better adapt to it.
Of utmost importance is being able to accept situations as they unfold. In acceptance, we welcome and face what comes to us and that which can not be changed.
Many things happen in our lives that we have no control over, and still we resist them.
Isn’t it nonsensical to resist something that’s already present?
Acceptance also allows you to be at peace with your unpleasant feelings. We accept and understand that these feelings came for a reason but they’re also temporary. Acceptance is the first step to be able to adapt to change.
2. Be aware of reactivity
Change causes stress, and stress clouds our judgement and makes us react to situations instead of acting from a conscious place.
When we react to situations, we do it unconsciously and instantly driven by waves of emotions, ideas, judgements and prejudices.
When faced with a stressful situation, how do you normally react?
Think of all the times you’ve been unconsciously reactive to situations. And next time take a moment to look within, and you might be able to see the reaction coming and stop it if inadequate.
Being aware of how you react to situations helps you make better decisions and get the best possible outcomes of the changes that are happening around you.
3. Explore your fears
Fear might be the main reason why it’s so hard for us to welcome change. We can only welcome it if we understand and have accepted our fears.
Ask yourself, ‘what am I so afraid of?’.
Explore this question and the feelings that come up with it. Have a journal with you, write down your answer and describe your feelings at that moment, write about the reasons this scares you, explore it fully.
By exploring your fears, you may be able to learn what is the real reason behind your resistance to change.
4. Adopt healthy habits
As we mentioned, stress clouds our judgement, and it can alter the process of welcoming change.
Some stress is necessary in our lives in order to take action. Too much stress though can cause many problems in our physical and mental state.
Adopting healthy habits allows us to better deal with and relieve stress and keep a spacious mind that welcomes other experiences.
5. Focus on the positive
Change happens in all forms, for the best, for the worst and even for not so different things.
In all scenarios, there will certainly be something positive we could find and place our attention to.
Focusing on the positive aspects of a situation makes it easier to welcome it into your life.
Practising gratitude is a great way to focus on the positive. You can take time of your day just to be grateful for things that are happening around you.
Change can be overwhelming but, it’s also unavoidable. The way things are now for you will be different in the future, and your ability to welcome these changes will turn it into a pleasant or a very unpleasant experience.
Resisting change creates stress and anxiety that ultimately serves no purpose if it is unavoidable anyway. So try to embrace change when it happens, turn it into a new adventure as it pushes us to learn and rediscover who we truly are and what motivates us.